Why should you never give up – Personal story

This post is going to be personal to me but I’m always honest with my readers because there’s no point pretending that I live a glamours blogger life or that I never felt like giving up, as one of the reasons why I started my blog was to encourage people to strive to live their best life and not give up on their dreams as everything is possible.

I know that you’ve probably heard many times before from people ‘oh don’t give up, it gets better’ but let’s face it when you’re down and the person who’s saying it life seems perfect and it can be hard to believe that they understand and I know this because I’ve been there, I used to think ‘what do you know your life is great’ and I didn’t really consider that maybe it wasn’t always great and they had to go through a lot to be where they are today. When we see successful people we forget that they are just like anyone else and that most of the time they started with nothing and the fact that they are successful is purely just because they didn’t give up no matter how hard life got, no matter how many times they failed they picked themselves up and tried again and the struggles they experienced got them to where they are today.

I remember a situation from last year when I was sitting at the bus stop after my shift at a job I didn’t like at 10pm, it was cold, it was dark, my phone was broken, my handbag was broken and I was broke. I felt like literally everyone in the world was doing better than me at that moment, I felt like things will never get better and that this is no way to live. To summarise I felt a lot of negative emotions and I was far from loving myself. I know that this might sound like a cliche but without experiencing that I certainly wouldn’t appreciate my current life situation like I do now. I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, like for example if you don’t get a job you want it’s because there’s a better one waiting for you and it most cases it my life this came true. Each job that I had gave me experience and brought me closer to my dream job as there’s never a job that you can’t take anything from even if you think it’s the worst job in the worst. So if you’re right now at a job you hate or you think that nothing will ever change in your life then I’m sorry but you are wrong, and if you don’t know what you want to do in life yet then don’t worry you will figure it out. But remember don’t ever settle for a job you’re not passionate about, don’t ever stick around doing something you don’t believe in. Just do your thing and one day people will understand, as I was discouraged most of my life from doing what I want to do for various of reasons by various of people especially people close to me, but sometimes you just need to listen to your gut instead of listening to others as at the end of the day no one will live your life for you so do what you believe in even if no one else does.

 

What you need to know before starting a YouTube channel

YouTube the same as blogging takes a lot more than you think; it takes a lot of passion and consistency to make a success out of it. More and more people are interested in becoming a YouTuber but what does it actually mean and where do you start with it? It can be scary and overwhelming with all the different types of software programmes and different equipment that’s out there, especially if you don’t have any knowledge about it. That’s why I’ve asked the lovely Natalia (who you can find on instagram and YouTube duh) who is an full time Youtuber herself as well as an film student for some advice that I could share with you guys!

Her first very important piece of advice that applies to YouTube as well as blogging is ‘Make content that you would like to watch! Talk about the topics that YOU like and YOU find interesting and useful, don’t be so worried about what other people ‘might like’, tell your story the way you’d like to hear it, and edit your videos the way you’d like to watch it. Talk about the topics that you’re passionate about, and raise issues that you care about. I can guarantee you, most people in this world might not like you and that’s okay! Because there will always be that 1% that WILL enjoy what you’re making. Just be yourself and express what you feel and what you want, don’t pretend to be someone you’re not, people like authenticity.’

I couldn’t agree more, to gain an audience you need to be true to yourself as well as them and be authentic and never listen to people when they have negative things to say about what you’re doing as they might think it’s silly or pointless at first but when your hard work starts paying off they will start asking you how did you get there. For example if Zoella listened to what people had to say about what she was doing she wouldn’t be one of the best earning vloggers as well as the owner of her own brand that’s stocked in most retailers.

Natalia’s second piece of advice is ‘Be passionate about what you make. Don’t start a channel because its trendy, or you want money. Do it because you have a good message to spread, do it because you want to create a nice little community online and connect with people, do it because you want to contribute in a positive way to the world.’ and most importantly ‘Be prepared to put in the work. Many people think that it’s so easy to set up a camera, talk for 10 mins, edit for an hour, done. That is not the case. The process goes on for days and sometimes weeks! Ideas need to be refined, the research needs to be done. For a two minute video, you need to film for at least an hour and sometimes even up to a couple of days if there is a variety of shots! Then the editing will take at least a couple of hours, and don’t forget to make the thumbnail. You need to know what equipment to use, how to use it, how to edit, how to use different softwares (in my case, it’s all the Adobe Softwares. I use Premiere Pro and After Effects to edit videos, and Lightroom and Photoshop to make thumbnails and Instagram content). Be prepared to wake up early to catch good lighting, and stay up all night editing. I also see many people putting in the work for a week and then stopping because they don’t see any money. It will take months or even years to see growth, so don’t be discouraged and just keep grinding!’

Now if you haven’t been put off by all the hard work you need to put in then let’s talk about the sort of equipment you need to use! ‘All you need is a some sort of thing that you can record decently with and your audience can hear you properly. Although, don’t spend loads of money straight away on fancy cameras and equipment! I recorded my first video with a 2006 camcorder I found in the attic. Then I brought my first Canon 1200D Camera with money I got for my birthday. As years went by and I started pursuing filmmaking more seriously, I slowly began buying better equipment, starting with a ring light and a rode mic. If you carry on making videos, naturally your interest in equipment and cameras will grow, and you will want to learn all about new techniques, new options, lenses etc. just to make your videos better! I currently shoot with a Canon 80D and a 1.4 50mm lens.’

Like in every industry there are things that you shouldn’t do and Natalia has mentioned so of her no go’s!

DON’T: be money motivated. It will take a long time before you start seeing progress, let alone some coin! Don’t go into it thinking about money and business. I sometimes see people with 50 subscribers making merch, and there is nothing wrong with that if they’re doing it for the good of their subscribers, but you can notice very fast when someone is just in it for the money! You can see when they don’t enjoy making content, the audience picks it up imminently and doesn’t enjoy watching it! Don’t expect to be receiving tons of PR packages and free stuff. None of this happens straight away! (Especially with the new Youtube rules)

DON’T: Create or live off other people’s Youtube drama, and dragging others. For the past year, this has been something that’s been really bothering me about the platform; You see many small channels picking up drama that is trending, like whatever Logan Paul did on that day. That is a shortcut to gaining short-term attention. Your video might get 100K views but no one will care as soon as the drama is no longer relevant! And think about it, do you really want to become ‘successful’ riding on the back of other people’s success and spreading negativity to earn money? That is not a good long-term plan.

I hope you enjoyed reading it and if you did please like and share it and if you have any questions about starting your YouTube channel I’m sure Natalia will be more than happy to answer them. Make sure to check out her video below!

How to actually make this year different

Same old story every year eh, you make plans to make this year different, to make this year count and to finally quit the job you hate? But then when it gets to mid January you forget about it all very quickly the same as you forgot about your diet. But it doesn’t have to be like that and the only person that’s stopping you is..you. For example let’s say you want to get fit, you will blame the lack of time to workout, the lack of money to pay for the gym or even the weather oh because it’s cold, when the reality is that the only thing stopping you is you as you can make time or cut down your spendings else where to pay for the gym.

Whatever your goal is, the first step is changing your mindset and telling yourself that you can do anything if you put your mind to it. Then the second step is consistency in whatever you’re doing, let’s say that you want to start painting or doing anything creative then get in the zone. Shut yourself away from the world maybe even turn your phone off and dedicate and hour for doing that with the least distractions possible.

I felt that this was needed to say as we are midday way through January and everyone has probably forgot everything they promised themselves to stop or start doing, so this is a little reminder to not to give up because at the end of this year you’ll be glad that you didn’t and that’s what I keep telling myself everyday as I know more than any else how hard it is to motivate yourself into doing things. It’s really ironic how we feel good about our selves and satisfied when we learn something new or achieve something yet we need to force ourselves to do that.

Few rules you should go by this year:

  • Say yes more often. Even to things you wouldn’t normally agree to as they can lead to great things.
  • Don’t wait for opportunities, make them.
  • Kindness is free so be kind to strangers as I’m a strong believer that good karma comes back.
  •  Spend money on travel instead of on things as memories are priceless.
  • Talk less and listen more.
  • Do detox days away from your phone, which under the same note be more present than online and you will notice how much more aware you will become with the world surrounding you.
  • Read more, lets break the stigma that reading is something that people should be ashamed of or that it makes them more fun as I’ll happily spend a weekend on going out and then the next curled up in my bed with a book.
  • Be supportive to your friends. If one of your friends makes music, listen to it and share it on you social media same goes to writing or doing make up looks etc. Or if you have a chance to see them preform or showcase their work then go as it will mean the world to them!

 

 

How to save money?

How to save money is the question that we ask ourselves a lot and the obvious answer is don’t spend money but what if spending money is inevitable like for example for grocery shopping? Then I’ve got a few tips for you that actually work as I’ve tested them out myself. There are a lot of apps out there that say that will help you save money but which ones are actually genuine?

So my favourite is probably Shopmium because they have unusual products which I wouldn’t spend my money on but using this app gives me an opportunity to try new products for free or for try little money, furthermore when you sign up and use this code C5W6B you will receive a free chocolate! And underneath I’ve inserted screenshots to prove that its genuine and you do receive your money back.

 

The second grocery shopping app is good as well as has much more offers for all sorts of places like Tesco,Asda,Waitrose,Morrisons etc and you can filter through them so for example if you’re going shopping to Tesco you can only see offers from Tesco which is defiantly an advantage over the other app where you have to individually check where each offer is eligible. Also another difference between those apps is that on Shopmium you get paid straight into your account whether here you need build up a certain amount on your account not to have to pay an transfer fee.

 

So this app I haven’t actually used yet but it works the same as the grocery shopping ones  except this one you can use on most online shops and not only and then you receive a cashback when you do the purchase through their app! It all sounds pretty straight forward eh? All it takes is a bit of time and effort and you can save yourself some serious money as it doesn’t seem much at first but when it starts building up it will!

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Most shops/food places have some sort of points system which collecting them probably can lead to many off/free things so it’s worth looking into them especially if you shop somewhere reguarly or if you are an O2 cutosmer there’s O2 priority app which offers money or or things for free to their customers!

Furthermore you can make some extra $$ buy selling things online and it doesn’t have to be eBay, as I personally don’t like selling on eBay. Look around your wardrobe to see if you have any old clothes to sell and if you do then download Vinted and start selling today. I know some people who’ve made hundreds of pounds on it so it all goes down to it if you want to make the time and effort to upload the items and then post them but if you do make sure to go through this link to recieve money to spend on Vinted!
https://www.vinted.co.uk/invite/lolaxska3

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Don’t forget to use my code C5W6B’ when downloading Shopmium!

 

Let’s talk: Acne and self-love

I’ve ‘suffered’ with acne ever since I remember and I’ve put suffered in quote marks because I feel bad for using it in this context as I know that there are people seriously suffering in the world but nevertheless I’ve experienced it first hand and I know how much impact it can have on your life and most of all on your confidence, and I wanna share with you guys my story of it to help people suffering realise that most people experienced it at some point in their lives and that it does get really better even when you don’t feel like it will.

It started when I hit puberty at the age of 13;sounds so cliche I know but at the time everyone was going through the same thing so it seemed normal to me and I didn’t make much of it plus when you’re 13 you’re not really self-concious about your looks yet it only hits you when people start pointing it out to you and you realise that it’s not the norm and it’s not considered as attractive. A few years later when everyone else’s skin was clearing up and glowy except for mine it started bothering me and I started feeling really self-concious about myself and I started being jealous about every girl that I came across with with clear skin which looking back at it now seems so silly since I can gurantee that every girl and even every person is self-consious about something in their looks that they would gladly change for with someone else.

I have tried probably all products that state to help acne, I tried eating healthy, not eating chocolate or sweets at all as some people say that it causes acne,had face treatments, saw doctors about it etc but nothing really helped to solve the problem long term and then comes the moment of desperation when you start thinking that it’ll never go away and you’ll always feel self-conscious about yourself but there’s nothing more wrong than thinking that as sometimes the problem can solve itself within few days. From my experience over all those years I found two major big factors that definitely had an effect on my skin and you’re probably not surprised to hear that those two are water and stress. We don’t really realise how important drinking 2 litres of water a day is and it’s not only to have perfect skin as it also increases energy and relives fatigue, flushes out toxins, boots immune system and many other benefits so what are you waiting for go and grab yourself a glass water! The other major factor is stress which is definitely much harder to avoid stress than to drink water as sometimes things happen in life which you can’t avoid which will cause you stress but if you can’t do anything about it then try not to stress about it, and yes I know it’s easier said than done. But try not to stress about trivial things in life like being late, dropping your phone or loosing things because most of them can be easily sorted and won’t matter in a week or two , so when something like that does happen just take a deep breath or listen to some music.

So for all acne suffers and everyone else feeling self conscious about themselves, I have one last piece of advice; love yourself! And I don’t mean it lightly literally love yourself, next time you look in the mirror be like ‘wow you look great today’ or write down a list of things that you like yourself. Because in this and age with everyone just showing just their altered, filtered, edited pictures it’s easy to start feeling low about yourself and start telling yourself that you’re not as good as other people.